“It is life, I think, to watch the water. A man can learn so many things – Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook.
Earlier this week I attended a workshop on program evaluation in health professions education. Being a health professional and an educator I find these workshops invigorating. We were learning about obtaining information on the outcomes of learning processes to know whether the outcomes were in alignment with the goals. What I gleaned from this whole exercise was that we need to have a clear purpose in our minds and then walk backwards to create goals and objectives. Where do you want to be few years from now? Have we been told this early in life or do we figure it out along the way? All of us are caught up in the daily grind of life and many of us are working mechanically like clockwork.
Some day when you are in your forties, your kids are ready to fly the nest or have already left, you will wonder what happened. It all happened so quickly. Like almost in a blur! You will also find that you have so much time in your life and space in your home and peace and quiet. However what we see is an empty house and loneliness because our minds were trained to expect this as a way of life. If you’re working, you will probably not notice the emptiness. Or you might when you return home from work only to find silence greet you. For some of you it is a different story. You chose to fulfil your dreams in your chosen career and started your families later that others. Are you struggling to hold on to your sanity, make your married life work and hold it together at work? There is no best way to go about life. But there are great ways to live a great life! For many of you, hitting the forties may trigger a sense of unease. It may also be accompanied by a midlife or existential crisis. It brings a lot of changes in your life. The womenfolk will find that hormones have started wreaking havoc; your kids are older now and independent; your priorities change and all of a sudden it looks like this wasn’t a part of the bargain.
How would it be if you were able to train your mind to see this as a silver lining and spend the rest of your great life doing things you absolutely love?
No matter what life choices you have made this is a golden oppotunity to seize the silver lining and repurpose your life. It is a time to unravel or discover new passions and create new goals. Believe me, forties are new thing. Whether you are a man or a woman, it’s time to start swinging into the second act and live a great life.